I have been having a kind of hard time with the fact that my relationship with my fiance was on the rocks and we broke up.  I kept on putting every kind of effort that I could into making things work, but the problem is that he was not putting any effort in.  I cast about for help, but was really coming up empty till I found a place that had some excellent breakup advice.  It turned out that I was just approaching it the wrong way, and that I needed to leave the ball in his court for a while.  I’m glad I changed my tactics.